Hello, my fabulous friends! Today I wanted to talk a little bit about parenting and the challenges to parenting a child diagnosed with autism. It has been heavy on my heart lately and writing has been such an outlet that I wanted to share it. So, today's post is dedicated to mastering challenging situations with as much grace as possible in this crazy world!
Let's Start with Mindful Parenting a Child with Autism
Parenting is a journey filled with joy, challenges, and countless opportunities to learn and grow. For parents of children with autism, this journey may present unique obstacles that require an extra dose of patience, understanding, and mindfulness. As we delve into the realm of mindful parenting amidst autism challenges, let's explore some tips and strategies to help navigate this path with grace.
Almost two years ago, my son was diagnosed with autism. Since then, my parenting has not been what I expected it to be, and I think that is true for most mothers who have a child diagnosed with autism. The diagnosis can change the dynamic of your marriage, the relationships with your friends, the chemistry of your family, and the way you live your life. All children are gifts, and my child is the best gift ever given to me, but the mindset has to be changed, which can be stressful and emotionally and mentally challenging. This is why I have decided to put more thought into self-care, which can be extremely hard and overwhelming, but it is important. If we do not take care of ourselves, then how can we take care of our children? It's a question that all people answer correctly but never practice. In today's post, I want to focus on those small things that can increase self-care and minimize stress just a little bit.
Embrace the Present Moment
One of the fundamental principles of mindful parenting is embracing the present moment fully. In the whirlwind of daily tasks and responsibilities, it's easy to get caught up in worries about the future or dwell on the past. By grounding yourself in the here and now, you can better connect with your child with autism and respond to their needs more effectively.
I like to do this in non-threatening settings. Take your child where you feel at ease caring for them. This may be at the pool, in a sensory room, or at the playground, but take them where you feel that all safety needs are met and you feel comfortable and then you can take that moment and embrace it. Look at the smiles, hear the laughter, remind yourself that things could be worse, and embrace the joy that is your child. I know this is hard to do all day, but taking a moment of your day and zeroing in on that happiness will uplift your spirits and change your attitude.
Grounding is a new concept that I am starting to love. Grounding is defined as many things but in the meditation world is connecting with oneself in a physical environment. By teaching our children this they can then connect with themselves in an environment that they feel connected with and can express themselves without judgment.
Cultivate Self-Compassion
Parenting a child with autism can come with its share of emotional upheavals and challenges. It's crucial to practice self-compassion and acknowledge that you're doing the best you can in a demanding situation. Remember to take care of yourself, seek support when needed, and allow yourself grace during tough times.
I find that walking meditations, yoga, and exercise are crucial to self-compassion. It's difficult for me to meditate and if you're like me it's hard to find a moment of quiet or even to yourself, but checking in with yourself is a great way to cultivate that feeling of acceptance and love. I also believe that finding something you love to do is important for your mental health such as a hobby, your job, or reading. Do those things. When all else seems lost seek out a professional. TalkSpace is a great resource and they have helped me.
Establish Calm and Consistent Routines
Routines provide a sense of stability and predictability for children with autism. Creating calm and consistent daily routines can help reduce stress and anxiety levels for both you and your child. Structure your day with clear schedules, visual supports, and designated spaces for different activities.
Just like my son, I thrive on routine. I enjoy the consistency and the knowledge of what is coming next. It's calming and even when we decide to take a different path, I make sure we are prepared for those unexpected moments and it's calming. For more on routines make sure to read this post!
Practice Active Listening and Empathy
Effective communication is key to fostering a strong parent-child bond. Practice active listening by tuning in to your child's verbal and non-verbal cues. Show empathy and understanding towards their feelings and experiences, validating their emotions even when they struggle to express them verbally.
Foster a Supportive and Inclusive Environment
Building a supportive network of friends, family members, and professionals can provide invaluable assistance on your parenting journey. Surround yourself and your child with individuals who understand and embrace neurodiversity, creating an inclusive environment where your child can thrive.
This is where I admittedly fall short. I have a difficult time opening up and embracing new places and people. It's not because I don't want to it's because I am an introvert at heart. I am not comfortable in intimate situations and I struggle with small talk but I know it's important so I try, just as you should. Some great places to start are on social media with Peace Love Autism, Channing's Joy, Cooper's Voice, and then check your local community for special needs moms support groups, church communities, etc.
Celebrate Small Victories
Parenting a child with autism is a journey of small triumphs and milestones. Celebrate each achievement, no matter how minor it may seem. Recognize and appreciate the progress your child makes, acknowledging their strengths and accomplishments along the way.
Seek Professional Guidance and Resources
Don't hesitate to reach out to autism specialists, therapists, or support groups for guidance and resources. These professionals can offer valuable insights, practical strategies, and emotional support to help you navigate the challenges of parenting a child with autism more effectively.
In the realm of mindful parenting amidst autism challenges, remember that self-care, empathy, and resilience are your greatest allies. Embrace each day with an open heart and a mindful spirit, knowing that you are making a profound difference in your child's life through your love and dedication.
Let's embark on this journey of mindful parenting together, navigating the complexities of autism challenges with grace and compassion. As we continue to learn and evolve on this path, let us cherish the moments of connection, growth, and love that define our shared experience as parents. May your journey be filled with peace, understanding, and an abundance of joy as you navigate the world of mindful parenting amidst autism challenges.
Remember friends that you are not alone on this journey. Together, we can embrace the beauty and complexity of parenthood with grace, resilience, and mindful awareness. Thank you for being a part of our community of mindful parents.
Let's navigate this path together, one mindful step at a time.
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